still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

There is this description of "segment intending." You work backwards kind of... So here is what I plan to do.
WHat I want: WH to pursue me instead of divorce me.

How will I know he is doing this:

-He will be asking me questions about where I am going or what I am doing
-I will see him looking at my body
-He will try to talk to me and hang around the house
-He may try to do favors or buy me or S things (stuff we might need at the store)
-He won't bring up divorce/paperwork


To "segment intend," I am to visualize him doing those behaviors and then look back on what I "did" to get him to act that way. SO here is what I will be doing



My actions that will draw WH to me:

-I keep losing weight
-I am tan (lol!) and have nice hair and makeup
-I am busy making plans- when we exchange S, I am dressed to go somewhere, and I initiate conversation about coordinating timing on the drop offs so that I am home in time
-I stick to the limited contact conversation and limit his time at the house
-I don't initiate contact with him unless it is about the schedule
-I continue to take care of the garbage, get his mail, and don't ask for help with things around the house. He will have to find the stuff to do which will show that he is LOOKING for reasons to want to be at the house.