Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

In hindsight, I wish I had done NC until after birth. I came out of dark too fast. A was not over. Should have let OW meet all H's needs while I drove him nuts wondering about me and the baby.
Sounds cruel, but may have been more effective.

But in your sitch, your H wants to completely escape from being a dad right? I mean he sounds so scared and if you were NC all the way, the downside is that it would be letting him off the hook in a way. He would not have to be involved because you wouldn't let him. So when your D is born, the NC would have made it harder for him to get used to the idea of being her dad. She would just be here all at once and it might overwhelm him and he could run away to OW in Europe forever. Therefore, I think it is wise on your end to let him get involved now, even if it is at the last hour!! It can ease his anxiety about being a dad and let him get excited about meeting his daughter!

Ok so I was just trying to explain a POSSIBLE downside in your sitch if you stayed NC throughout the whole pregnancy!