Sorry to hear your W isn't ready to do the work it'll take to make her happy and accept ownership of her life and emotions. It's her loss at this point and you should be very proud of yourself for all that you have accomplished.
I heard someone say that resentment and lack of forgiveness are like a poison that you drink and expect someone else to die .... your W is only hurting herself by witholding forgiveness.
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
