Was able to have a productive "argument" with H last night. We've never argued over the years, which is probably part of our problem.

Anyway, he may have to start working nights & there is a boot camp thing I want to do in the evenings. Well, he didn't see that it was kind of important to me to know what his schedule is going to be & acted like I had not told him the dates/times of the boot camp thing.

Anyway, I used a lot of "I feel like . . . " blah blah blah & it didn't escalate as much as it probably would have & I believe it was actually productive. Told him I don't feel like he actually HEARS me when I tell him things. Also, that he doesn't tell me important things when he finds them out & then even sometimes says he did tell me. Anyway, it all worked out & I think it was good that we got out what we got out.

This DB'ing stuff works !!

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10