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[pigskin]

All I can say is "bravo" IDU.

The only thing I would have suggested is putting a deadline on her decision.

You worded your comments very well, in my opinion. Especially letting her know that it will be her decision if you split up. And that you are OK with whatever she chooses - shows strength and confidence in yourself to handle whatever the future holds (even if you aren't really feeling that way).

I'm proud of you.