Quote:
"You asked me to think about what you said last week about staying at my mom and dad's or sister's house a few nights a week. It took me a few minutes this morning to realize that's what you were talking about when you asked if I was coming home after work or going to my sister's house. I have decided that I won't, I can't leave my kids even for a night. I will go to counseling with you if and when you are ready. I agree that things can't go on like this. I don't agree that things can't get better, or that it's too late, and I definitely don't agree that splitting up would be best for the kids. But, it's your choice. You do what you need to do and I am okay with whatever you chose. I don't want to be with anyone who doesn't love me. It's your choice. Let me know what you decide. I have to go now, such and such from work asked me to come over and help him work on his truck, I will see you later."



NO, It's your choice on how this marriage will play out. She doesn't get to choose for you. She doesn't want to choose, she wants her man to fight for her.

Victims let things happen to them. Leaders formulate a plan then execute.

Here is what I said:

Quote:
"Wife, you asked the other day what we are going to do. Here is what I decided. I won't live in a open marriage. Unless you break off all contact and we have complete transparency, meaning I have access to your e-mail, cell phone and know where you are going to be. If you can't agree to that then this marriage is over and I won't move out of my house. If you do agree to that then we will attend MC together and work on the issues that keep us from feeling loved and respected to each other."



You didn't mess up but you need to pay attention to how you say things. Look at the response you got. Lead. You can handle it.


Cheers

M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.