All - interesting weekend...W appears to be more "approachable" the past few weeks. This weekend we agreed to fill out the legal financial docs together. She appears to still be moving forward with trying to secure her future, which I understand to a certain extent. The issue that we are going to have is how do you support two households with the income that is supporting one. I do wonder if OM is pushing this but I try not to dwell on it.
I remain committed to doing what is "right" and pray and hope that our court system will be fair.
My D continue to be very "attached" to me. I suspect that she is begin to feel the impact of our sitch. I am schedule to attend parenting classes in June and I hope that this will help me learn how to deal with the kids.
Finally, I have begun the process of creating a tighter budget for me, which has forced me to say NO to the kids about pruchases, etc. I am planning on taking the boys to see Dave Matthews at the end of the month and W agree to pay for their ticket (I could not believe it). I also told her that I need to start preparing myself to eventually leave the house. I think my comment was "I can't stay here forever". Her comment was she would never throw me out. I am not sure what she is thinking and I really try not to "figure it out". What will happen will happen. I know that I did everything that I could and have accepted that the M is over. Some days I still feel the anger and pain, which I know understand will take time to get over.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I will never give up on myself! This journey is no longer about saving my M - it is about finding out who I am and becoming the man that I have always dreamed about.
Do I love my W - Yes Can I help her - NO Can I help myself - ABSOLUTELY Do I hope my wife finds her way - Yes
Mila - my sitch is pretty complicated. W has decided or her L has decided for her to go after EVERYTHING. Am I angry? Yep but I do own my role in this. The hard part is how this will impact my kids. They are really the victims in all of this. Maybe I have finally come to a place of acceptance or maybe just maybe I am begining to accept that I cannot change or control another - I can only be ME...the Best ME and leave the rest to God.
Hopefully that answers your question. By the way I have to catch up on your thread. I suspect that you continue to be a pillar of diginity and strength...I'm always impressed by you Mila - always.
Cat - if your still around...."HI"
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
W has decided or her L has decided for her to go after EVERYTHING. Am I angry? Yep
They all start out asking for the moon. Try your best to treat this aspect of it as business. It's tough, but keep those emotions in check. If you find yourself struggling, always examine where your focus is at that time.
So far I have been pretty calm and collected. That is not to say that I don't have moments where I am angry (she though never sees them). I really have accepted my role and her role in this. I know move forward with my promise...be the best I can be.
Interesting enough we agreed to fill out our financial stuff together and she appears to be much more friendly these days. My L has given a few different scenarios as it relates to the finances - all of which are not ideal. The one thing that I know is the end state of my sitch is temporary. All of this is temporary. Life changes, life moves at its own pace - life my friend is good if u let it.
Thanks for checking on me buddy.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
