Ha, yeah, my WH said that since his family is so religious, he didn't divorce me back when he wanted to because they'd be mad. That was SUCH a lie. He has only really thought about D since the pregnancy (or since he got his new job 3 months before.)
I completely agree-- he cannot equate H + father = happy. That was the first thing he learned about himself in therapy! He said he told the therapist that his whole life he's been able to tell crazy stories. And once the baby is born, there will be no more stories left to tell. Later, I guess, the discussion went to me!
My WH is all about identity. Yours may be. . . (it's really annoying he calls it a personal revolution. Makes it sound so positive, go WAH!)
That's why I think some day my WH will grow up. It could be ten friggin years. It would be really sad because I will for sure be married again by then, but. . . that's how it goes sometimes.
