How would you treat her if she was your cousin? You would try to be "tolerant" of her trying to hug you. But you would reach around and gently take her arms from around you (with a "kind" smile on your face.....like you were her older uncle) and then move away from her and find something else to get busy. Always have something in the back of your mind that you can find to do.
If she just throws her body on you and tries to take you down.....tell her thanks but that you aren't in the mood,or simply say, "Thanks, but no thanks". Why are you afraid of this? B/c it doesn't seem to your emotions what you should be doing. All of this stuff seems opposite of what you should do.....but it works. If you were to give in to her advances, then you would fail her "test" to see if she could still control you in that area.....and she would suddenly go very cold afterwards. She will try just to see if she still has an affect on you. But if she sees that you can't be moved....it will make her want to have you even more. It worked on you, didn't it. When you thought you would lose her, didn't it wake you up?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
