MINDFULL - It won't be long now... Parallel Paths

[mindfull]

I really and truly believe this. Your boys are going to follow your lead.

Jeff, I am trying to be upbeat w/them, but checking in to their sensitivity...

Ya know Mindful, one thing to think about is that if you relocate your kids will have a lot more upheaval than you may want.

AJ, I'm not relocating anyone... The plan is to somehow get out from under our home, and rent a normal-sized home in a neighborhood behind their school. This neighborhood is full of soccer and school friends, all walkable, and is in the middle of school, soccer, and, well... life.

Co-Parenting? Hard to define that right now w/spew coming at me. My only hope is that the anger will dissipate, and H will put the boys (and D18) before himself, and just... be... good. I can only remember one time in 15 years when he actually apologized for anything, so, I'm not holding high hope.

Oh and I still want to kick your H. It can be arranged the week I am in Chicago, I could do a side trip!

Are you flying or driving to Chicago? Something tells me, if you're driving, you'll go right by me! This can be arranged!

My EX was the same and is still the same to the kids. I am sorry. Call me anytime you got my digits. Day or night.

Sandycay - I thought of you when the Mother's Day Massacre happened. Thank you for your words, wisdom, and offers... And, I will. Poor Fergie can't hear it all!




So, I got the boys off to school (Tuesday), after a few tears, and some phone calls to teachers (asking for grace on a few assignments). I then spent the day in Madison.

Thank you, Ferg. You are a true friend. HUG

I came home calm, and energized, and ready to face the kids again w/a positive spirit.

NOTE: On the way to Madison, I talked to my very best male friend (and his wife, who I am very close to, as well). I gave them the news of a pending divorce, and they were truly shocked. I asked my very best male friend if he would come w/me to my attorney appointment on Wednesday am, as I thought I needed some advice from someone who knows me, knows Paul, knows a bit about our finances, and is incredibly smart (he's a highly successful businessman). He agreed immediately, and we hung up. He called me back a few minutes later, and asked me to seriously consider switching attorney's. He had made a phone call, and had agreement from the best D attorney in the area to take my case, if I want him to. The very best male friend thinks he is the only one that will drill down to the bottom of our "messiness," and also has resources within his office to handle the financial aspect on-site. The attorney only takes four or five cases a year, and thinks mine is one he would love to handle. (Nice. I feel special being in that elite group. NOT)

So, the very best male friend and I are going at 9:30am.

And, last night, I had the chance to tell a few more of my IRL support moms about the D, and I have full support and help from them whenever I need it. (Funny, when we talk, they all want to go for a walk... Wonder how much more weight I'll lose walking and talking...?)

Good evening at home w/the kids, though. I got a flurry of spew txt's from H during the night, which I handled calmly, and requesting support and compassion for the kids... I can't help him. I can't encourage extended spew either. So, mark my words... LESS is MORE when communicating with him.