Forward, maybe he is, but it is all so strange, the last time ex phoned me and we chatted everything was so friendly, in fact ex seemed more at ease during this call than any of the others he as made to me, there isnt a reason for him to say to son that he doesnt want to text or phone me, it is just something he has taken upon himself yet again to do, I will I suppose converse with him when he is ready, dont know of any reason why we cannot convers as parents of the same child, ex's doing not mine, x Snodderly, yes tea seems to have gone well, although son never comments unless I ask, son just did make a comment last week how he finds it easier to just ignore the wifey being there now, x