screwing up big time and need help

[elvencat]

Thanks so much for all that input! I recognize many of the ideas from the book, but hearing it from someone else dealing with it makes it sort of make better sense to me in a way.

I realize this is kind of low, but you could probably do or say anything you want and he isn't going to file for D. Based on financial issues and health issues. What do you think- do you agree?

I actually agree with you here. He's even told me he'd leave filing up to me to do whenever I was ready. Well, he'll have to wait till you know what freezes over. If he wants D he can do all the paperwork to make it happen. But I haven't told him that's my viewpoint.

I really like your "rough draft" list. It's more than I have been able to put together on my own yet! I'll try to refine it and post a specific set of goals and narrow things down. That way I can keep refering to it throughout this whole process.

And I thought it was hard having a three year old! You have some valuable insights for me. thank you! (((NM))) Hope our Hs realize losing their families is worse than getting what they want.