DO NOT beat yourself up. You didn't know. You can do things now anyway--Coach, and the rest agree--Your H is watching you.
He isn't happy--this path has NOT brought him peace and joy.
If you see him again (in the elevator? do you live in the same building?) touch his arm gently and ask if he's OK. Or show up with something that may make him smile--a gift of some sort that would cheer him up. Tell him you are concerned--he doesn't look good and you want this GIFT to cheer him up.
Now, his parents may "get" that he is a gifts guy--but their LL may be quality time or something else.
And I have heard a lot around here--if your LL is quality time and that is not your H's LL (heck, it isn't even his 2nd LL) you are going to look "needy". And yes, you had a bad reaction when you actually "asked" for your LL, and it looked like your H rejected you.
But he didn't.
Forgive yourself first.
Then forgive your H.
You can STILL get to this guy I just know it--you now have a deep knowledge of who he is. It's huge. Work with it.
