Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

I actually haven't read The Secret- I just learned about it on Oprah! But I should google it to learn the details! I have read the piecing and reconciling threads from time to time. Guess I should really be reading them right now since it could be the last chance! If you don't remember off hand about the friendship when there is OW, that's ok!

Have never seen the vets talk about friendship when an affair is involved. It's much more all or nothing...until OW or OM is gone, we have NOTHING to talk about.


Would be interested though if we can find posts stating the contrary ! Actually MWD suggests being the better option so many women have been doing that...but Puppy points out that it doesn't work most of the time. I was doing that and it didn't work for me. I wasn't able to be his friend though- always had the wall up due to OW.



The only diff I think between women and men as walkaways is that men are better compartmentalisers and also feel much less guilt about leaving their families and the destruction they cause when they have an affair. I read that on the Pyschology Today website which someone posted on my thread. It's my H to a T. Yep, apparently WH can fit in that boat as well...just because he has bonded with S doesn't deny the fact that he has left our family, you know?