No forgiveness needed and I welcome you to my thread.
Originally Posted By: elvencat
My H is using the excuse to me that he doesn't want DD growing up thinking that our relationship is what a normal relationship is. He told me he feels that our relationship has never been "normal" because I "always had to have my way, and never considered" his feelings in important matters and tried to "control" his actions so he'd always be dependent on me. I can't believe this is his thinking, but he's using it as an excuse to not work on the marriage.
This is spew...Don't listen to it...It is his way to justify his actions and forgive me since I am not up to date on your sitch however will read tomorrow and give you more input on that...
Originally Posted By: elvencat
I feel showing our DD that no matter what problems arrise in a marriage, trying to work through them and making the family stronger are more important.
Thia is exactly how I felt and it took me quite some time to change my thinking...I was willing to put up with anything just to keep my family in tact...Then one day I woke up and no longer wanted to be his doormat...
Yes in a marriage problems will arise however I want to teach my boys that you work on those problems together in a relationship...Not bail at the first sign of trouble...
When my boys grow up and get married, I don't want history to repeat itself...I want to give them the tools needed to be a strong adult...One who respects their spouse...One who will fight with their spouse to keep together what they built...
I never want my sons' to treat their familes like disposable garbage and I will do whatever I have to to make sure they get through this as unscathed as possible.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
