still separated, headed for D?

[flowmom]

I know I've been talking about my needs in my thread, but when you're talking with your H, make it more about your WANTS than your NEEDS. Expressing wants shows that you're focused on thriving, not just surviving. Also, many men project weakness onto women who express their needs (it's a projection because men who are not aware of their own needs are the weak ones). Also they feel overwhelmed by expressions of need that they can't or don't want to meet.