My point is, that both H and I just said that in frustration...we didn't really mean it, well, at least I didn't...I am sure your H was just frustrated....
Oh, I get that. I guess what bothers me is that H seems to be the one with "special needs". Sometimes he is truly over-reactive. I used to think it was just me, but once the children reached a certain age they have triggered him too. And the reality is that when you're dealing with a special needs child, it really doesn't help them to indulge in one's own frustrated impulses...they pay a much higher price for that than typical children do. I lose my patience too, but even at my worst I don't have the out-of-control energy that H has. My DB coach Dotty was very insightful about that...she recommended that I communicate with H as if he had "sensory processing disorder" and needed to be communicated with in a very careful way. I'm sure that would have made a difference if I had started ten years ago.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
