2 weeks left to DB

[newmama]

You will not find it awkward... i find that being around my H reminds me that is the same H, only he's been living in a spaceship lately. So i dont feel funny in front of him, quite the opposite. I find that we get along so well, and laugh and are comfortbale around one another.

Yes I relate to what BD said- I remember when we went to the appointments together it was understood without speaking that the focus was on me and the baby! It was great! lol! And of course we fell into that comfortable "couple" way of relating to each other. I let that happen off and on when WH would come to the house to be with S. But like BD said about her H living in a spaceship, when I would see the old WH it reminded me that he is in there somewhere so it was comforting. Unfortunately it didn't help to detach either!


OK Piano- your H especially needs to go to the appointment because he is so scared of fathering! My one goal was to get my WH to bond with that baby so I made sure he came to any and all appointments that he wanted to. I think it worked. Go for it- think of the baby and ignore the fact that he is out in space with OW.

Gosh I don't know why I keep missing the point that you will be at YOUR MUM'S place so that means your H won't be there! Dare I ask--can your H visit you and the baby while you are at your mum's? I might have not seen if she lives really far from your apartment or not. He wouldn't have to spend the night-just be there.