Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

I actually said something about our R to H and said i just dont get how you are 100% confident with your decision about us (in a nice cute tone)... shockingly he said, Im not confident with my decision at all, just dont want to talk about it. I was so taken back, that i didnt question it, didnt ask what he meant...

lol BD, just because you say it in a nice and cute tone doesn't mean it doesn't count as pursuing/R talk! I am giving you a fluffy 2x4! Good job at not responding to him, though. But I gasped with delight when I read your H's response!

Did you see Coach's post on his thread about thinking versus feeling when DBing? Someone asked if there are different approaches to getting the WAS back for male walk aways...coach said something like men do a lot of thinking. I was thinking maybe the coach meant that men take more time deciding what to do?? So perhaps that is what your H meant by not wanting to talk about it...no pressure...needs more time to "think."

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read a lot of peicing sites and read up on a lot of the vet's posts and many of them believe that reconciling begins with friendship... wouldnt that be nice if that happened for my sitch

But in all honestly I am putting myself first. Right now it's all about ME!

Good Babydoll- spend more time doing what you want and what feels right to you without worrying if it will hurt your chances for R. About the vets saying reconciling begins with friendship- did you catch if that included when affairs were involved?