2 weeks left to DB

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Nm, thanks. I think the joint photo is a very good idea and I remember that from another post of yours. I am happy to let H do his bit post the birth if he wants to. Just wondering if being at my mums excludes him for a bit. But maybe I can see it this way: I get top care and rest for a week or so at her place, and then I can always go back to my place depending on the lay of the land.

BD, excellent timely advice for tomorrow's hospital visit. Although I must point out the diff between our two hubs is the level of comittment they are showing towards fathering & the fact my H has OW and tells me he wants/plans to be with her... So we are in rather different sitchs.

That's why I put that question. On more reflection, I think you they are one and the same in your sitch - like very possibly. In my sitch, it's not sure to work on saving the M, because like Newmama, I have this extra complication (OW), plus some geographical issues thrown in (he could go live very far away).
When OW is involved, the 'tough love' approach is often recommended on this site ( a la Puppy, Allen, Robx, Coach, Sandi2), not the MWD approach, or my coach's approach for that matter.

But what I do certainly agree with is that if I have done the "letting go" thing, tomorrow's visit is an opp to, as you say, "show your H what it would be like to be a family. this could remind him that once upon a time he wanted this too... and that he did care for you and love you and was IN love with you!". Yup, this is very possible!


I do believe it kicked in a bit of a reality in his head, about what is actually going on in my life... i think you have the same opportunity here. By all means, you need to feel 100% about it, but dont dismiss it without seriously considering it.

Possible could work for my H, though the tough love advocates here say he will never connect with me until OW is gone from his life or even his head.

I am very happy you and your H get along and your attitude is so positive. ha ha! especially liked this: i find that being around my H reminds me that is the same H, only he's been living in a spaceship lately.