Forgive me for not having read your whole story, but your last post just really spoke to me.

My H is using the excuse to me that he doesn't want DD growing up thinking that our relationship is what a normal relationship is. He told me he feels that our relationship has never been "normal" because I "always had to have my way, and never considered" his feelings in important matters and tried to "control" his actions so he'd always be dependent on me. I can't believe this is his thinking, but he's using it as an excuse to not work on the marriage.

I feel showing our DD that no matter what problems arrise in a marriage, trying to work through them and making the family stronger are more important.

Originally Posted By: Serenity13
When I first came here all I wanted to teach them was to fight for what you believe in regardless of how bad you got hurt...Along the path that changed to being true to yourself no matter what...


At some point, if we still end up getting D, I hope I can also transition into this kind of thinking.

Me 32, H 34, DD 3
M 6, T 8
Bomb 03/10
OW Bomb 6/5/10
Separate & NC 6/28/10
My 2nd EA Thread