But that and saving one's M are not one and the same, agreed?
I disagree... I believe they are the same... just taking two roads to the same place! MWD says in her books, that when children are involved Divorce should not be an option and I agree!!! And she also says that a family IS a reason for couples to stay together, and I believe that by trying to coparent together does not mean we accept the separation and no long want the marriage! Instead I think you two going to the doctor together (only if you are 100% comfortable with it) could only show your H what it would be like to be a family. this could remind him that once upon a time he wanted this too... and that he did care for you and love you and was IN love with you!
My H wanted to come to the appt last week, and he asked me to go, and I was a bit weirded out by it, but H wsa attentive, asked questions, heard the heartbeat and saw my belly. When I made my next appt for next week, H pulld out his phone and plugged in my next appt and said he'd be here. I do believe it kicked in a bit of a reality in his head, about what is actually going on in my life... i think you have the same opportunity here. By all means, you need to feel 100% about it, but dont dismiss it without seriously considering it.
You will not find it awkward... i find that being around my H reminds me that is the same H, only he's been living in a spaceship lately. So i dont feel funny in front of him, quite the opposite. I find that we get along so well, and laugh and are comfortbale around one another. In a strange sense I almost think we are like to teenagers, flirting and laughing and trying to figure things out. Besides, this can be a trial run as to how you would feel if he were at the delivery or the hospital when the baby is born.
