Hi elvencat! Your plan on things to accomplish for yourself looks pretty good because those items will take a lot of time to accomplish...time away from focusing on your M or your H! Which is good!

Distract yourself...then pamper yourself...but always control yourself and NOT say the nasty things you want to even if they are true!

Ok I really want to assure you that anyone is capable of starting an EA if they don't stop themselves-mental disorder or not. So even though I wanted to diagnose my WH with some kind of depression, it turns out there doesn't have to be one for them to start an affair!

What are your sleeping arrangements like? Did I miss that?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004