still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

OK so remember my prediction about WH wanting to come to the house on Weds? Well I was right!!

He comes by to pick up S. I do my best to put on my serious face and think "Here comes the neighbor who got me pregnant!" but that makes me laugh! So instead I just think "here is the foolish self centered alien that took over my H's body! I do not want this H!"

Well I had to share a couple tidbits of info. WH is all cheery, smiley, acting like he is just the happiest adulterer on earth! (sorry, being sarcastic!) Well he has to use the bathroom and then I remind him about S' swim class tomorrow and walk toward the front door. He says "since he has swim class, I was thinking of bringing him by at 12 and then I can lower the crib mattress and work on ..." I didn't let him finish. I said in a friendly but serious way "Oh, well I'm okay if you want to drop him off at 12 on Wednesdays from now on!" He said something like mmmhmmm...but in a snotty way.??? And kind of smirked!!

"Except I do have a dr. appt at 12 in 2 weeks..." He didn't respond. He might have been mad I think because then he said "ok, we gotta go! say bye bye! see you tomorrow!"

What do you think? I know I am sounding tough but it is an ACT! I am ACTING! Holy crap tomorrow he will drop off S and then be in the house. I guess I can just start feeding S lunch. I really don't feel comfortable saying to WH "please leave." But I don't want to let him just hang around...damn him for making me uncomfortable!

Is this where I will have to say gently "Thank you for fixing the crib mattress! OK well we will see you tomorrow at the parking lot!" and if he protests or says anything do I say "WH, at this time, I really need space. I will let you know when I am ok with you hanging out here."

Yikes- please give me suggestions on the wording! Thanks!