still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Our Hs absolutely, at some point, need to hear that WE did not choose this! THEY did- THEY LEFT US WHILE WE WERE PREGNANT. I write that in caps because it is so low! Now I did not rub it in WH's face all the time. In fact I think I have only said it 2x in the last year (which is less than the number of times he said he wants to divorce me!)

Anyway I think the H's definitely know what they did/are doing is wrong and they can't face the shame of it so they make it sound like "separation" instead. My WH has done the same thing- when I made him expose to his family (but followed up), he said that "we were separating" not " I am leaving NM for ho bag"

And BD that is totally why I am not filing- HE chose this, he needs to follow through with the decision to divorce!