2 weeks left to DB

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NM, no my mum and family are very good around H, on the rare occassions they have seen him. My mum is the most condemning of him (and yet also supportive of us getting back together if I want it) but can be very bubbly and normal and I trust her 100% to keep things friendly.

It is tricky sometimes when BIL goes off to see husband. Because for me H is "off limits". I never ask how it goes, or what he is doing, or intrude on the time they spend together. Often when he goes off, his girlfriend stays with me so I am not alone anyway.

They are staying with me for more weeks, maybe months.. it really depends. They are here on working holiday visas (one year) and are trying to get paid jobs. I think they'd like to rent their own little place or share with others if they could afford it.. Having said that, they seem very comfy here!!

So yes, BIL and girlfriend will stay im my apart while I am at my mums and I guess I can come back whenever I feel ready. Me not being in the apart probably means H will be over here a bit with them... Hmmmm, better make sure I don't have any DB lit lying around!!! Like you though Babydoll, I would H to be playing the carer role, not my family... it's weighing on my mind.

I think the best approach there is: don't try to second guess H.

BD, yes I do need to pick myself and and stop feeling sorry for myself. I will only disinvite him if I think I can't emotionally or physically handle it.

It's obvious to me he has said no to the birthday event because he is afraid of me. Rather afraid I will take it to mean something.

The hospital app will be rather dry... but it's a chance for him to see my stomach and hear the heartbeat and perhaps any updates of when she might arrive. The only prob is that the midwives all know my sitch...could be awkward, oh well!

The common wisdom is that it is better for baby long term and for my relationship with her if I do everything I can to inlcude him.

But that and saving one's M are not one and the same, agreed?

Off to buy bub a little woolly cardigan. It's on the 'taking baby home' list from the hospital.

HUGS and thanks for all the support and being there for me gals in these last days before bub comes, I really appreciate it.