OK I get that. I need to come across more confident. I'll work on that.
As Jasper says, you will gain it when you feel your power. NC is the quickest way to recover it.
A question: Tuppy suggests strict NC when you separate. Do you agree and if so, then what do I say when she asks why we can't just be friends? I just told her because it hurts too much.
Read the sample protection phase letters
And if she does leave, what if she comes back to the house? How should I handle that?
Change the locks.
I guess I'll have to think about how to divide up the kids time and the property now and make a proposition to her about it.
A proposition????
NO propositions. She ends contact, writes a letter to OM saying such, and goes to CT w/ you or she gets out! THAT IS IT! No negotiations.
You are not getting a D so leave any talk about property division alone. You tell her you will talk to her when she ends her A and does the above. She can see the kids every other weekend and call them before bedtime. (Let one of them answer).
Say as little as possible. Keep to the statements even if you sound like a broken record. (Anybody know what that is anymore?)
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
