My H also said 'we separated" when h first left until I drilled it into his head with 'YOU LEFT!!!'
I know it really bothered him to hear it and he would say you never take responsibility for our M, and I respond with, the reasons you gave me were FIXABLE! and not reasons to leave. And I did send him an email once saying I take full responsibilty for my part. i owned up to it. Obviously he wasnt happy with the fact that he did it the way he did.
His parents also seemed to think i accepted it or wanted it... now I think they all see that it wasnt the case.
Maybe it helps our H's to think we agreed to it... that is one of the reasons why (after lots of internal battles) i refuse to sign the papers. I dont get it bc for me when i refused, H started turning around... slowly but he did.
Do you think they need to know we dont accept it? We dont want it? Or do you think its just easier for them to say we did as to validate their screwed up decisions?
