With the assistance of member on this forum, I was able to defuse an EA between my W and a co-worker. I have been told by co-workers including 3 good friend of mine, the talk between the two had halted and at the currently is nothing more than a "hi" or "hello" exchange. As they would put it "It is nothing like it was." When there was something there everyone could see and knew what was going on.
I was told that when even the the minimal occurrences in this work place are made out to be major instances. In other words people know when something is going on.
I have a third friend who is not a co-worker but at times works at the same location as my W and they observe everything and according to him he had heard nor seen anything.
It was decided that I let things rest.
Since communication between my W and I has improved. If you have followed my second thread, my W has uploaded images of her at our wedding onto her facebook and also a picture of us two on our honeymoon.
MY CONCERN: W was looking at wedding gowns online, many different sites.
Even though we have come a long way since my first thread, W is still bitter and distant toward me at times. Last night my W did a google search for "I love him quotes" during those results she saved an image which had a quote on it that read
"So there's this boy and the way he laughs makes me smile, and the way he talks gives me butterflies, just everything about him makes me happy"
She then attached this image to an email and included the following two quotes in that same email.
Quote:
Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you' re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU... The one who turns to his friends and says, "thats her"....
Quote:
Should I smile because we are friends? Or cry because we'll never be anything more?
My W then sent this email to herself. then deleted it and then emptied the trash. The emails that are sent to this email address are also CC to her phone.
Now speaking of phone...she has two lines, one on my account/name and that is clean as far as the logs go.
The other is her personal line under her name. I have temporary access to the account and was able to view the logs...she has only uses 9 minutes in the past month, all to numbers that are in her contact list. Needless to say as of right now, these logs are clean.
What should I do, if anything? Does this mean anything? Should I be concerned?
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
