Future, if you dont mind me asking... how far did your dating go with the other girl? I think you mentioned not long ago that you were dating someone? Did your wife find out about it?
I don't mind at all. I've dated a few women over the last few months, none of them seriously. Just going out to have fun. My W knows nothing about them, because I never talk about it to her or anyone in her circle. She could detect a sea change in my behavior around her, and that perked her ears up as to what I was doing. I think little things caught her attention over the last few months, like:
* Me asking her to keep the kids at her place one Saturday night * Me texting her at 1am on a night I didn't have the kids, telling her the kids' backpacks were on the front porch for her to pick up, because I wouldn't be home in the morning * The kids telling her about new people they were meeting while they were with me, including women (I've never exposed the kids to anyone I was dating, just friends) * Me standing up to her, allowing her to get angry, and then NOT trying to smooth things over * Me generally seeming happy and just fine with my life, even though I was not talking to her at all
If you're familiar with my sitch, you might remember her getting jealous over the mother of the teenage girl I am hiring to watch the kids this summer. She is a friend of mine, but we aren't dating. I have never mentioned her in any way to my W, but my W has casually mentioned her name in conversations several times recently, watching for a reaction from me. Funny stuff, seeing her not-so-subtle attempts at digging for info.
