Hi Shelbel, I can't comment on a lot as I haven't read everything in your thread, but I have a very moody, nasty at times H that I have just started to set boundaries with--3 1/2 months of walking away when he starts in on me with a script--
"Sorry you feel that way H, I hope you'll feel differently in the future." Very much a way to dodge his anger and NOT be someone he can fight with--that way they are left with only themselves--you are NOT part of the problem.
The OTHER thing that I began and JUST have seen some results with this, is to have a statement to leave him with--an "I need" statement. I got some ideas for these over in the Infidelty threads--they are full of good ideas. Allen and Puppy are awesome.
You make your short statement and then LEAVE. There is no argument, no look on your face they can remark on--just what you need and you leave them with that thought.
"H, I need a man that ..."
They are short--not very long. Do one at a time and KEEP SAYING IT.
BTW, are you SURE there is no OW or ??? Him not wanting you on the computer--I spend a lot of time reading the infedelity boards and boy, that is a common theme with the cheaters.
