I have to say that at first, I found you a little blunt, but my experience lines up pretty well with what you say. It really takes most people quite some time to get to where you are about things.
I'll agree with not necessarily chosing to fall in love with someone, but staying in love is a choice.
I beleive that many of the WAS's choices are meant to protect their egos from guilt and facing the truth about how they are conducting themselves. They have a very hard time looking in the mirror. No one wants to see themselves as an adulterer, liar, thief....this is where fruitopia comes in. They can act like a narcissist and suffer no consequences. By pursuing and accomidating, the LBS is enabling and reinforcing WAS behavior.
The best thing you can do is let go and move on. There's no place in 'fruitopia' for FormelyknownasF. Ugh, and why would you want to live with the abuse anyway?
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Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08