Post-birth, the plan is I will go to my mum's house (only in hospital 24-48hrs max) and she + other family members will take care of me. What I give up in terms of independence and living with BIL in my apart and all the positive things that brings, I will get in round the clock family care....
Part of me wants to 'reject' this family care... well, not reject it but distance myself in some ways..cos of what it represents I guess (that is: husband missing in action!).
I am concerned about how it will impact on H's role.
If I came back to my apartment with relatives dropping by frequently and BIL there to help (and his girlfriend - I actually haven't mentioned her for simplicity's sake before but they are 2 !!! - and they are both great), that would allow H to be more involved. Geographically it would be easier for H, and certainly more comfortable.
But I need to put my care and needs first, and who would I be kidding to think that H is going to want to do such a quick turnaround and want to be there all the time?
