Hi! It's 5am here - having a little insomnia moment and it's so good to read you :-)
Well I guess I want people to say what you guys say here... your marriage is important, you are being so strong, keep it up! My folks are a great support in this direction so I am very lucky. Those 'you're about to be a mum, so focus on that' statements are fair enough in many ways, but I sometimes hear it as 'your married and sentimental life was just a bit of fun on the sidelines of your life, your job on this planet is as a breeder/nurturer, woman!". Oh la la - inner Germaine Greer coming out, lol!
re vets...Allen's advice about busting the A and zero tolerance was very useful for a period, but after a long period of going dark (6 weeks) I felt I had to revert to dim in order to communicate with H about the baby... I also thoiught it might be 'safe' cos A could have been over... Allen's no doubt given up on me cos I have, as he suspected would happen, gone all mushy close to the birth and want H to be involved etc!!!! He saw it coming...
