No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

Old Pilot,

I'm not on the alt, but you can post whatever you like on here. These boards take up enough of my time that if I started getting on the alt, I'd never get any work done! : )

I totally agree that my W is in MLC. She had the triggers all at the same time 2 years ago when this nightmare started:

1) Grandmother who raised her died
2) Came very close to getting fired
3) Getting older (she's 37, but acts twice her age)
4) Depression (sleeps alot and erratic eating patterns)
5) Stressful life change - new child born

So when she had her A with her boss, she had someone who was validating, fed her sense of self worth and boosted her self-esteem. I did my best to do those as well (not knowing about the OM), but they didn't have as much weight as the validation her boss gave her. So she fell for him.

Today she denies what happened was an A (can't admit it to herself). She still acts "entitled" although not as much as before. Her moral compass is still screwy.

I encourage and validate her as much as I can and I invite her to many family things, just not all. And she always comes.

Anything else you can suggest?