No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

Coach,

You've been following my journey from almost the beginning, so believe me when I say I value your words very much.

One of the most important lessons I've learned from you is to lead through actions not words. I've been doing my best to do that. In terms of her feeling safe at her sister's place, I've done my best trying to make her comfortable when she is home. Heck I've been doing that for over a year.

I get frustrated because I feel her sister and her mom are enabling her. They give her everything she needs - her sister cooks for them, her mom takes care of the kids, I take care of the bills. So there's nothing for her to actually "work" for.

I was thinking about writing a note to her mom and sister just restating my position that I am fighting for our marriage and my family. I was going to mention that what my W does is ultimately her decision and I respect her for it. And that I am doing this because it is what I believe is right.

It seems like she's actually "recreating" her childhood. When her father left her and family, they moved in with her aunts, so there were 6 women all living together and her and her sister grew especially close during that time. My W has no close friends and feels her sister is the main person.

I really feel I've got an uphill battle. You can see what my response to her was above in the post I addressed to sandi.

Any suggestions?