Good grief Ken

Do NOT HAND her the book.

You LEAVE it for her to read on her own.

And the way you put things you are NOT offering her ANY HOPE

I realise YOU feel hopeless, but if you want to win her back you need to start showing CONFIDENCE...

The OM sounds like he has it in SPADES...

Handing her the book and saying "can you at least glance through this book before YOU decide what YOU'RE going to do..." you sound like you are handing her your testicles in a frying pan.

YOu need to find CONFIDENCE in yoruself and offer HER HOPE... she has NO RESPECT for you when you present yourself like a doormat like this...

I am not trying to upset you Ken, but look at the OM, He is CONFIDENT... everyone confronts him and he just laughs at them... your WIFE ADMIRES that... you need to FIND some of that...

STOP leaving HER to feel like SHE has CONTROL... THAT is going to KILL YOU here...