Thanks Sandi,

It's a tough call wether to try and use these advances on her part to show her I have begun to acknowledge her needs in our R or push them away and drop the rope. I can't help but thinking that dissing her advance would only confirm what she has come to know in the relationship.

I know she is so emotionally confused (so am I!) and she will be flip flopping back and forth. I guess regardless of how she acts, I need to stay consistant regardless of which direction I go.