I mention BIL because I wonder if he also is becoming 'accustomed' to the status quo.. I haven't mentioned my distress lately (really been mindful of not laying that on him) and maybe he thinks since I let H come into the apartment the other day that I am slowly becoming "OK" with separated life. I think I will have a light talk to him and let him know without labouring the point that I am not OK with what is happening.
