Thanks so much Allen and Puppy for those thoughts. I think I'm starting to get it now. I have had alot of fear to overcome (and still do) because these ideas seem so counter-intuitive. But I am trying to work that correct plan. When I see other books such as Penny Tuppy's suggesting something similar, I realize that that must be best way to do it.
Allen, I actually did get a book called "The Case Against Divorce" and left it lying around. I think she picked it up once briefly. So yesterday I handed it to her and said, "Can you at least glance through this book before you decide what you're going to do?" I think she will do it.
My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.