thanks BD for outlining all that.. So you are aiming at being the best person you can be? for you, or for him? Or a bit of both? I know what you mean about H crawling into cave like an abused child - mine was like that too.
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
