[quote=WhatNow] In your tag line, you say that your WS moved in with OW 12/09 and you went dark but started "peeking out" 3/10. Does that mean he regrets moving in with OW and that you're trying to reconcile? Just curious...
And NO! we are no where near reconciliation. I just have my emotions under control so am able to deal with him without it hurting me. A few issues with the kids forced contact, which has led to a few convos about him. He is still with OW in their no-tell ho-tel!! here's my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2000506&page=1
Interesting story, WhatNow. Similar to my tale in many ways with the yelling at the kids/not attending their activities, etc.
I had to drive myself to the hospital when I went into labor with our first child, and the "two weeks off, I PROMISE!" with baby #2 dissolved into 1 afternoon off that he spent napping. I've let him work as much as wanted to for 23 years - often 60-70 hours a week - with little or no household or childcare responsibilites, and yet he told me that he'd be a lot further along in his career if I hadn't dragged him down so. Nice!
Looking back, I sometimes wonder why I'm being so loyal to him, given how poorly he's treated me over the years, the last 3 years in particular.
Where's that hot, smart guy that I spent hours debating and dreaming with all those years ago? Who treated me like a Ming vase whenever we were together? Who could make me blush to my toes with just a naughtly lift of his eyebrow? Where did he go?!
And who is this alien that has taken over his body? I'm ready to evict THAT guy...
