Well, A few days ago I got "I've lost respect for you/ILYBINILWY/I'm DONE bombshell dropped. ... Suffice it to say that I KNOW she is getting misinformed advice and it ain't gonna be pretty for me. ... This woman doesn't 'hate' me as far as I know, we actually get along fine, but from other situations I've been privy to, I suspect my wife is gonna get the "You have to make yourself happy girl, and if he doesn't make you happy anymore, well . . . "Helpful advice" ... but I'm kind of a 'lame duck" man of the house, so can't do much about it. ... and I think I'm bearing the displaced feelings. ... Anyway, I know I screwed up when I asked her (almost told her really) that I didn't want our situation discussed with her friend . . . I've already been a victim of THAT problem. ... About fifteen minutes later, I did go and apologize, said I didn't have any business telling her who she could discuss what with. I kept it short and to the point. ... Problem is . . . It is FREAKING ME OUT. ... I ain't got a clue how to handle this. ... my question is what do I do? ... I'm a basket case over this. Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.
Based on the above snippets taken from your own quotes, you sound a little angry, scared, confused, etc.
No one made fun of your personal situation. You don't like some of the advice given and the fact that this situation is currently out of your control is bothering you.
Your wife is leaving you for many reasons including because you don't make her "happy" and possibly because you lost your job and she is getting poor advice from her friends who she appears to be listening to and she doesn't appear to want to listen to you anymore. That seems like a pretty accurate recap of your sitch so far.
Good luck, I hope you find the answers you're looking for and I hope it works out in the end.
