I like the doggy story! Seems to fit well :-)

G, my husband told everyone we "had separated" too & it really upset me. He had left. HIM. Not me. Then my DB coach told me to 'own' the separation. That really hurt.

Then he told his mum I had "accepted" his wish to leave me. She said to me "why did you do that?!" and I said, "what, I was going to chain him up? He's LEFT!".