help some advice plse..have i finished it for good

[JacT]

Lin,
What an amazing story.Have you ever considered writing formally about it?Even a book of short stories(I am sure you know many and would get support here).I dont think there is still enough out there on MLC,Infidelity and how both can affect individuals and families.Especially on how hurt the children are, your real life sitch's.
My concern is timing and the strength of power the OW has over my H. She is devious, vile, calculating and would do anything I believe to hold onto him.(remember she had a plan in place since May07 and got him Jul09).I am concerned if I start ctcg him, he will become confused and more unstable.

I told him I would not play with his head the way she had and if it what he wanted, i would let him go cos I loved him.Beyond that first night I have never shouted at him, blamed him, stopped him from seeing his kids.

What do I know for a fact that is positive:

He never left me in April when I suspected the A.It was the only night he spent at hers.(this is when I suspected the mobile phone was hiding something).

He said at a night out to a colleague when she was hanging around him..I cant get rid of her.Not a nice way to talk about woman you are having an A with(end May)

H dumped her the week before I found out saying he wanted to make it work with his W.
He didnt want to leave the night I discovered txts(TELLING HER NOT TO TXT HIM)and A.
Said he hadnt planned to leave us and loved me and would always love me.
Said we had a great 28 years.
Loved his children beyond all doubt.
He said there was nothing worth what was happening when A exposed.
The night of A exposure said didnt know if he loved her but was not in love with her.
Its been 9 weeks since he txt about D.

I have home,kids history and marriage cert.

Negatives

Said within week loved her, was in love and she made him happy despite he hadnt spent the time I thought with her.(his words)

She feeds his additcion and is prepared to do what I wouldnt do.

She gave him a roof, food and a car when he needed it most.

He is telling his friend life has never been better.

but.. has never spoken to his father about her or sitch in any way shape or form.
(would have thought he would say sorry but I love her and not in love with Jac anymore.)
Has not told anyone in work about sitch in fact old neighbour asked for us and he said we were fine! and would pass on her regards.

There has been no ctc and he is still there.

Another friend who knows the Ow said to me this isnt finished..she is pure evil.

She is a female philanderer..would love to see me ask him back, definitelyy narcissitic personality.

She doesnt know or understand about cdg.

I think this A may have to run its course.He txt her for 9 months.I think it was closer to a year b4 bomb and living with her for 10 mths..he could be happy despite what I think...min 19 mths he has been in EA/PA could be over 20 mths..God this is torture..
Lin thanks for listeng..think about writing.(((hugs)))