I think you might be referring to her boss? That would sure make me feel better, sorta felt like you were participating in Coach and Robs rather juvenile attempt to make my situation a joke.
Anyway, no, her boss (I'm assumeing that's who you're talking about, wasn't part of it. He just heard it all as it developed. He's a senior who owned the barber shop, and learned a long time ago to stay out of the young helps soap opera lives, as he put it. (Can't say I blame him)
Anyway, sorry for thinking you were participating in their tasteless joking about my situation. A bit difficult figuring out who is sincere and who is just looking for a cheap shot opportunity if you don't treat them like they're some sort of DB Gods.
Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.
I have a great sense of humor, actually. Fortunately I also have a great sense of discernment, knowing when it's appropriate and when it isn't. You need to see if you can find some discernment somewhere . . .maybe a garage sale in your area.
Originally Posted By: robx
people tend to be attracted to people that make them smile, laugh, feel good, etc.
I suppose that's why so many don't really care for you here
Originally Posted By: robx
I get it bro, maybe you're a little angry about your situation and/or confused and maybe you want answers, results, directions, inspiration, action, whatever it is you're looking for, maybe take a breath and relax a bit, being angry isn't going to help your situation anytime soon.
Maybe you should take a breath and stay out of this thread, because you clearly don't "get it"
Originally Posted By: robx
As for the name calling and attitude, you're being a bit of a jerk, keep it up and you're going to alienate yourself on these forums but do what you want to do, I can't control you and wouldn't want to even if I could.
Well, fight fire with fire. I tend to treat jerks like jerks. Unfortunately, I haven't alienated myself from you just yet. I'll work on that. And ya couldn't control me. so don't concern yourself with that too much.
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Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.
Well, A few days ago I got "I've lost respect for you/ILYBINILWY/I'm DONE bombshell dropped. ... Suffice it to say that I KNOW she is getting misinformed advice and it ain't gonna be pretty for me. ... This woman doesn't 'hate' me as far as I know, we actually get along fine, but from other situations I've been privy to, I suspect my wife is gonna get the "You have to make yourself happy girl, and if he doesn't make you happy anymore, well . . . "Helpful advice" ... but I'm kind of a 'lame duck" man of the house, so can't do much about it. ... and I think I'm bearing the displaced feelings. ... Anyway, I know I screwed up when I asked her (almost told her really) that I didn't want our situation discussed with her friend . . . I've already been a victim of THAT problem. ... About fifteen minutes later, I did go and apologize, said I didn't have any business telling her who she could discuss what with. I kept it short and to the point. ... Problem is . . . It is FREAKING ME OUT. ... I ain't got a clue how to handle this. ... my question is what do I do? ... I'm a basket case over this. Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.
Based on the above snippets taken from your own quotes, you sound a little angry, scared, confused, etc.
No one made fun of your personal situation. You don't like some of the advice given and the fact that this situation is currently out of your control is bothering you.
Your wife is leaving you for many reasons including because you don't make her "happy" and possibly because you lost your job and she is getting poor advice from her friends who she appears to be listening to and she doesn't appear to want to listen to you anymore. That seems like a pretty accurate recap of your sitch so far.
Good luck, I hope you find the answers you're looking for and I hope it works out in the end.
Nice that you guys get such sport out of things that some people take kinda seriously.
Seriously, why did your wife do it? How will you know if it is the truth? Does it matter?
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but to feed their own egos.
mind-reading, last time I read you don't psychoanalyze though.
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And they hate when anyone questions
Really? mind-reading and you telling me how I feel. If you want to know what I think or feel just ask don't assume. I actually like to learn and try new things.
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"unequaled wisdom and grand knowledge"
your words, again mind-reading
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you should be ashamed
trying to tell someone how to feel - controlling behavior.
Telling people what they think, how they should feel and belittling them is all controlling behavior.
Numerous people here and IRL have commented that you have controlling behavior. I understand it. I also understand it's not productive. I also know it's not productive to comment on your thread. I hope you find what you are looking for.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Coach, Robx, you should be ashamed . . . but yer not. Kiss my ass.
Nice!
yes it was . . .and highly appropriate!
Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.
Based on the above snippets taken from your own quotes, you sound a little angry, scared, confused, etc.
Let me try this again Robx: I don't want your clumsy attempts at psychoanalysis. Pretty much anyone and everyone in this situation is a little angry, scared, and confused. That rates as a big "Duh!"
Originally Posted By: robx
No one made fun of your personal situation. {/quote]
Now yer just lying, or have an unrealistic and really narrow, self-serving definition of what "making fun of" is.
[quote=robx] You don't like some of the advice given and the fact that this situation is currently out of your control is bothering you.
I didn't want your advice. Still don't. I don't want your opinion. Still don't. You were an ass. Still are. Asked ya to go away. Still here.
Originally Posted By: robx
Your wife is leaving you for many reasons including because you don't make her "happy" and possibly because you lost your job and she is getting poor advice from her friends who she appears to be listening to and she doesn't appear to want to listen to you anymore. That seems like a pretty accurate recap of your sitch so far.
Of course that would seem accurate to you. You don't know what you're talking about, but hey, clearly you don't let that little detail stop you from thinking you have everything pegged.
Tell me, Doc Phil-with-hair-and-no-mustache, what makes you think she isn't listening to me anymore? Nothing I've said even remotely supports that supposition. One reason I haven't said anything you could reasonably infer that from, is because that isn't the case. The only thing that's really come into play on in any significant manner is the "Friend thing", and for all I know, she could be honoring my wish. I simply don't know, and neither do you. Unless . . . maybe . . . . hey! Are you GOD? If so . . . my apologies.
Originally Posted By: robx
Good luck, I hope you find the answers you're looking for and I hope it works out in the end.
Falls too short. And rather obviously insincere.
Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.
Seriously, why did your wife do it? How will you know if it is the truth? Does it matter?
mind-reading, last time I read you don't psychoanalyze though.
Really? mind-reading and you telling me how I feel. If you want to know what I think or feel just ask don't assume. I actually like to learn and try new things. your words, again mind-reading trying to tell someone how to feel - controlling behavior. Telling people what they think, how they should feel and belittling them is all controlling behavior.
Numerous people here have commented you have controlling behavior. I understand it. I also understand it's not productive. I also know it's not productive to comment on your thread. I hope you find what you are looking for. Cheers
Well Coach, I have a Magic 8 ball.
Let's see: Does the Coach like Tequila? "All signs point to "yes" Pretty close to home, eh, coach?
Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.
Greek, That's a shame you feel that way, but I suppose your loss isn't gonna affect my life all that much. You're not seeing your hubbys bizarre part in this, I suppose. Oh well, see ya. You can always come back if you ever figure out who was actually out of line here. Your Hubby could always man up and apologize too.
Greek, That's a shame you feel that way, but I suppose your loss isn't gonna affect my life all that much. You're not seeing your hubbys bizarre part in this, I suppose. Oh well, see ya. You can always come back if you ever figure out who was actually out of line here. Your Hubby could always man up and apologize too.
Bummed,
I've read your entire thread, and it's you who's been out of line.
Frankly, you're an ass, and until you begin to realize that maybe YOU are the third hole in your own life's lifeboat, and work on your issues, you're merely going to repeat the same mistakes over and over and fail at even more relationships. (yes, that's advice)
You've managed to drive off some of the best and wisest posters this forum has to offer -- nice work.
I will, however, take a stab at your question, though. What did I do about what I perceived to be my wife's negative influences? I ignored them, and worked on busting her affair, and on myself.
