I also think, even though it may be counterproductive, its time to ask her if its still her intention to move out when the other apartment is ready. At least then you'll have a solid barometer of whether what you're doing is actually helping or if its time to switch tactics.
I asked my DB coach if I should do this and I was told not to. It is believed that I have made progress with my W and having a R talk our trying to gain an outlook on the future at this point is too premature.
Fair enough. To be honest, I'd be tired of that crap, but thats just me. You know your wife better than we do, if you think you're seeing progress then you may well be.
