Took my wife for granted, now she is done. help!

[sandi2]

IMHO the LL is to be used when the S is not a walk away. It doesn't work on a WAW. No matter what her LL is, it would be seen by her as you pursuing.

Is now a good time to drop the rope and pull away? When she is intrgued again?

Don't know if you are asking if you should wait until she is intrigued or "if" she will "be" intriged again. She isn't now and will not be unless something happens to cause her to be. Personally I believe dropping the rope will help that along. But, it is your decision and you must do this for YOU.....and with the thought that YOU are going to be happy in life with or without her in it. You must not approach this as if another 180 and use it as a tool to draw her back b/c there is always that chance she won't allow herself to be drawn. I hope you understand that part of it.

I really believe if the LBH would decide to drop the rope that it would wake up the WAW, but it is not 100% pure fact. But look at it this way, the M is over....it's dead anyway you approach it. Wouldn't dropping the rope be your best route? If she does not like the new & improved you, at least you will be going forward and hopefully like the man you've become.

P.S. I don't want that to sound as if I am promoting divorce. If I was, I would not be here trying to help save M's.