Robx , you hit the nail on the head. While I am not there, I am certainly on my way there. The most important thing I got out your post is that LBS must take control over their life and become more accepting and loving of themselves.
Albeit, I am personally having a spiritual warfare at the same time. I have tried for 30 days of showing love, now it's time to reclaim what I allowed to be taken. Still being respectful but using the gifts that I have to rise above.