In 15,000 posts here, I've noticed that there is NOTHING as powerful as these two things:
1) The left-behind spouse suddenly DATING (or giving the appearance of dating, or being willing to date);
2) Legal fear. WORDS TO THE WISE:
It is best NOT to draw any serious conclusions, nor make any potential life-altering DECISIONS, based on a wayward spouse's demeanor toward you while they are under the duress of either -- or BOTH -- of these two things.
Puppy
And both of those things are scary to implement by the LBS. Detach, listen to those who have gone before you and open your mind.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.